In my quest to develop a meaningful relationship, a bump in the road has come up. S-I-L-E-N-C-E! The modified definition is simply with out sound or a space void of sound of any kind. Since the space we are speaking of is "relationship", the meaning takes the form of "no communication between two parties for an described amount of time due to hurt feelings". Does that sound familiar? I know this territory all to well...

I was once the Queen of the silent treatment. If silence is truly golden then my riches have been stolen and I really need to get it back.(We're still in a recession, you know.) Back to our conversation. I used the silent treatment as a strategic weapon if my boyfriend didn't want to go to the movie I wanted or instead of doing Mexican we did American. Just plain silly nonsense. As I write this I am now on the other end of the silent rope and I see the true power of communication, real communication.

To build anything; relationships, roads, buildings, lives; communication must be present. Clear, concise communication. My sister tells me I sound like Oprah or Dr. Phil. Guess what? I'm cool with that because their point has been just this when you speak it into existence you get it. How often in relationships do we sweep it all under the rug and pretend it's not going to affect us? And it always catches us in the end. How do you work on it? Just say ahh! Have meaningful conversation which is at the core of what you want your relationship to be.

So the question becomes what are you truly committed to? A loving relationship filled with ups and downs? A stable relationship built on putting things off? Or are you satisfied with moving from one relationship to the next telling anyone who would listen that it's not your fault blame the last person? As for me, I am committed to living my life with my soulmate/lifepartner who needs space right now and I'm giving it to him. Just one more day, then we are working this out. Why? At the end of the day, silence is the killer of relationships and communication is its life blood. Speak. Talk. Share. There is no power in letting silence win. Share this with the ones in your life that you love. Talk everyday about what matters most. At the end of the day, all u have are your words to create the world you desire.

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